The Trans Daughter in A Chinese-Dutch Family – Panel Speech for The Performance on 11 Feb. 2024

I am honored to be a panelist for this thought-provoking film ‘Het Optreden’. It gave us a chanece to talk about how our culture can be both a solid part of our self-identity and a persistent source of pain.

Why not let everyone go to the restroom that fits with the gender on their ID? More on trans people, restrooms and related issues

If the public wants to mandate that “the gender on the ID card is the gender of the restroom”, it is simply not possible to achieve the result of “no muscular men in women’s restrooms”.
In fact, whether one supports toileting according to the gender on one’s ID card or according to one’s gender identity, both will result in cisgender women encountering “muscular men,” either FTMs who are very male-like, MTFs who are not female-like enough, or other groups of people with very masculine gender expressions.

为什么不让每个人都按ID上的性别去上厕所?再谈跨性别者的厕所与相关问题

如果大众想规定“身份证上是什么性别就去什么卫生间”,是根本不可能达到“女厕所见不到肌肉壮汉”的结果的。
事实上,无论是支持按身份证上的性别如厕,还是按照性别认同如厕,这两者的结局都会导致顺性别女性遇到“肌肉壮汉”,要么是很像男性的FTM,要么是不够像女性的MTF,或者其他性别表达非常阳刚的人群。